Of all the words not to say when a discussion is turning heated, ‘you’ triggers a myriad of emotions: anger, resistance, shame, distrust, or guilt. When faced with, ‘You're crazy,’ ‘You should be ashamed,’ ‘You’re wrong,’ ‘You could do better,’ or ‘You can't,’ your response is doubt, insecurity, or fear. Not exactly a great way to get to a resolution! Effective communication … [Read more...]
True Communication Requires your Presence
The most important skill needed in building and keeping a loving relationship is communication. When we begin relationships, we attend to the other person because we want to get to know them. We listen to their likes and dislikes, history, family dynamics, dreams and fears. We spend hours in conversation, discovering each other. No fact too small, no story too long. The … [Read more...]